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On Generational Trauma and Breaking Cycles

  From the book "What Happened to You?" by Bruce D. Perry:                      “Your own experiences and the echoes of your ancestors’ experiences influence the way you think, feel, and behave. They are major determinants of your health. And being aware of this can help us remember that everything we do right now is going to echo into the future. Our actions matter; we are impacting the next generations. So are we being as mindful as we could?” In Black culture and especially church culture, the phrase "breaking generational curses" is often over emphasized and under implemented. I've been thinking about this a lot lately as I explore my own parenting practices, beliefs, and values. Breaking generational curses has less to do with somebody in a family stepping out and doing something new (i.e. being a first generation college student) and more about ending patterns of trauma that exist across generations.  As foster, soon-to-be adoptive, parents my husband and